“Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy” – Aristotle
We all know what anger is, and we’ve all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full-fledged rage.
Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life.
Anger is not negative emotion like many make it out to be. Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats; it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviors, which allows us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. A certain amount of anger is necessary for our survival. On the other hand, we can’t keep getting angry at every person or object that irritates or annoys us. We must learn to ignore some things which are beyond our control for no matter how much wrong the things are our anger is not a solution to all the evils of the society.
Anger issues faced by a person ranges from moderate to extreme. We all have anger inside us; some take it out instantly while some suppress them inside. Every person has their own way of handling their anger issues. The way of handling your anger goes a long way in shaping your life and your relationship.
Some people take out there in an assertive way which is regarded as a positive way of taking out your anger. In this situation, a person directly confronts the person on whom he has anger. This is not done in an aggressive manner rather the person confronting is in complete control of his action. He may sound to be rude yet he will take utmost care not to disrespect the person in question. They take utmost care not to hurt people’s feeling with their anger. These people are seen to have a successful relationship with other people.
Then comes the people who too take out there but not in an assertive manner rather they take it out their anger aggressively on other. These people are pushy and demanding. They have no control on their anger outburst as they take out their anger on everyone as they want. Their anger blinds them from emotions of others as they fail to see that their anger can hurt people too. They don’t look back to see the after-effects of their anger. People of such aggressive nature are more likely to fail in maintaining their relations with their loved ones due to their anger issues.ANGER – HOW IT DEADLY DAMAGE OUR HEALTH. READ THIS BLOG TO COPE WITH IT
Then there are people who hide their anger and try to channel it into their work. People who fear to confront people are mostly seen to suppress their anger. They hold in their anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. Though at the surface this is the best of all the response there is a big danger looming in this type of response. The danger in this type of response is that as they don’t take out your anger on others, their anger turns towards themselves. These may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.
Now the question we need to ask: when does your anger need to be addressed?
Actually, the anger level differs from individuals to individuals. But if one feels that their anger is really out of control if it is having an impact on their relationships and other aspects of their life, you might consider counseling to learn how to handle it better. A psychologist or other licensed mental health professional can work with you in developing a range of techniques for changing your thinking and your behavior.
If you want to live a life where you can take care of your own choices then try to get on top of your anger before it gets on top of you.