“You are my child, How can you do this, it’s not our status” – a statement by the parent to their child when the child wishes to do something.
To be true, this statement is heard in each and every house of our country. Nowadays it’s said that child is given enough freedom to do what they want but its not reality. The backstage script is something else.
A few years back, I had a word with a parent and her daughter was in grade 1 at that time. I still remember that day, when her mother told me, “I want my daughter to be an engineer, I want her to be on the top”. I was glad to hear that and I used to appreciate that parent every time. But as time passed I saw how that girl was molded.
Every day she was sent to school with the words “You have to be on top, I want you to get first at every stage”. Whenever she used to score less, less in the sense 9 out of 10 or 38 out of 40, she used to be sad. She used to cry for that 1 or 2 marks. She used to be on the top in the class yet she was not happy.
At the end when she will go home, her parent is going to ask where you lost those two marks?
Why those marks were given more importance?
Every time she was reminded to be at the top as she has to be an engineer.
There were times when I saw that girl entering in class with a very sad face. Whenever I used to ask her the reason, she used to hug me tightly and used to cry. The reason used to be related to the studies. Every time I used to divert her mind by one or other stories.
As she passed one after other grades, she got the mindset that she has to be on top. Even in co-curricular activities so she was supposed to be on top. Even she performed very well in every field but I never saw that girl sharing her words, her dreams. She always had words those were fed by the parents.
Her parents are very supportive till date, she is taken care like a precious diamond. In past, there were worst circumstances of her life at a minor age, she faced lots of issues. Her parents are one of the best parents who fought for their daughter. The girl is very happy as she gives her best. They are having the best bonding with each other but something lacks.
I wonder sometimes because she is unaware of the actual term of “dream”. She only knows what her parents have told her. She never thought out of the box. The box that she holds is of her parents, just name tag is given to her.
7 years passed, still the girl holds that box, which is full of expectations from parents. This innocent soul is still working on it.
I am scared of the day when someone will ask her about her dream, not of parents.
What is she going to reply?
Will she realize it?
Or it will go same as it is going from years.
Who is responsible for it?
Be a parent, who doesn’t have to be embarrassed in front of the child in future that he/she is going to ask you,
“Dad Where are my wings?”
“Mom why you didn’t allow me to view the world from my eyes?”
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