“To educate a person in mind and not morals is to educate a menace to society.”
Raising a child is one of the toughest tasks for parents. Raising a well-mannered child is a tough challenge for a couple of modern times. Children are not born simply good or bad and we should never give up on them. They need adults who will help them become caring, respectful, and responsible for their communities at every stage of their childhood. They need their parents to guide them properly in life. Children, if given proper guidance by parents, will go a long way in being a good person in life.
The childhood of a person acts like a root of a tree. The stronger the root the stronger the tree will be. So, it is very important for the parents to raise their child in an environment where they will be compassionate, respectful, loving towards others. The environment in which a child is raised shows its effect in his youth and adult stage. So, proper attention must be given by parents at this stage to raise them well.
Children till the age of 13 years are completely dependent on their parents for everything. This is the time period when the parents should try to communicate properly with their child. They must create an environment where their child has full faith in them. Parents should not be too harsh on their children for it creates a sense of fear among the child, when parents come across as too strict; nor should they be lenient on them for their mistakes.
Many-a-times, when a child makes a mistake the parent’s approach in correcting it, decides the mindset of a child for future. If the child honestly owns up to his mistake then the parents should avoid scolding him for the child has realized his mistake. Many parents here make the mistake of scolding or even beat their child, which creates a sense of fear in the heart of the child. So, when the next time the child makes a mistake rather than owning up to them they will take the help of lies. It’s a delicate situation that is needed to be handled very carefully.
This is just one of the many situations that will arise in your life while raising a child. You have to correct their mistakes whenever they are wrong without going overboard. You should allow them to understand their likes and dislikes. Try to lay a path without stones and thorns for your child but let them walk in those roads themselves to understand them better. Their roadmap for future would be set in this time after which they will enter their adolescent age.
This is the time period when hormonal changes takes place in a child. This is the toughest period for parents in parenting their child for they enter an age where they can neither be treated as kids nor as a young adult. Mood change is common in this stage of a child. This is the phase when parents should let off their guard as a parent drop and try to maintain a relation like friends with their child.
For the teenagers are rebellious, throwing your choices even of its good through their throats will only make them rebel more. In such a situation talking to them like a friend will help them understand that your own thinking maybe different from him but at heart you care for him deeply. Once you gain their trust they will be able to speak about their problems with you honestly which can minimize their wrong decision in the course of time.
If you as a parent succeed till here then you have done your best in the upbringing of your child. Just keep your faith in them even in the worst of times, see how they blossom in life.